We bought this rose-bush last year as a perfect round-topped standard. It was lovely…..for a while. Then it all started to go wrong….
The sorry tale of the rosebush:
It became covered in spots; it began to grow lopsided (you can probably infer that I am not an expert gardener) and its flowers were disappointing (3 dilapidated wee roses). This year, when it started growing again after its winter sleep, I looked at its sorry little form and thought, “I’m going to get rid of it. It’s a mess.” “Woah. Wait just a minute”, I heard my inner self say!
I find it fascinating nowadays that as soon as I have an uncharitable or unspiritual thought, it immediately slaps me in the face by way of instantaneous reaction, like a cup of cold water to awaken my inner sense. How could I think of throwing out a perfectly lovely plant just because its form didn’t “conform” to my idea of perfection? Why did I feel it had nothing to give when it was clearly making every effort to bloom amidst dis-ease (and neglect!)?
This easy-come, easy-go attitude has prevailed in my mind and our western society for decades. Products across all sectors are manufactured with planned obsolescence in mind. When a thing we have craved then loses its lustre (either physically or emotionally) our initial thought is often to get rid of it and replace it with something bigger, more powerful, prettier, better etc! And yet, this unhealthy paradigm has been countered in recent years by a rise in upcycling, recycling, repurposing, reusing. If something isn’t right in my spiritual life, I do my utmost to tackle it. I work on relinquishing bad habits by replacing them with new, positive, uplifting ones. I meditate more deeply; I keep better company and so on. I’m upcycling my soul!
What of our relationships? When we tire of them, do we simply toss them aside and move on to something else (sic ‘better’)? Many people do. When others do not turn out as we would have liked, do we perhaps need to turn the focus within? Is it our own thoughts, emotions and reasoning which need to be repurposed rather than blaming the other person? Food for thought!
“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not twist them to fit our own image, otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.” Thomas Merton.
Everyone has the potential to shine, to bloom, to be the best version of themselves they can be. Don’t try to prune off their rough edges; don’t spray them with the pest controller of your ego; rather gently coax them to grow tall and strong and blooming marvellous! Have a wonderful week! Much love, Anita.🌦☂