Here is my latest article on the subject of pain and how to cope during times of crisis. It appears in Fibromyalgia Magazine, May 2018 issue.
Love is such a powerful emotion. Most of us find it easy to love our nearest and dearest – our family and friends – and for some people this is enough in life. They see no need to extend their love outwards from this closed circle. In fact, the thought doesn’t cross their mind at all!
I used to think like this, but now the thought of sharing love to others outwith my little circle crosses my mind all the time. I know it’s God prompting me to act. I believe the first and easiest way to extend love outward from family and friends is to focus on the local community, which has a diversity of layers and avenues to become involved in.
Here are a few things we can all do to show love and kindness to those in our community:
Donate food, toiletries etc. to the local food bank for those who are struggling financially and cannot afford to feed themselves and their children. Don’t donate with judgement in the back of your mind. Just help people who need help and give gratitude to God that you are financially able to do so. We think nothing of spending £10 on a good bottle of wine to take to a family gathering. Include your local community as your family now! I’ve decided to allocate 10% of my weekly food bill to the local food bank. You could, if you prefer, allocate a specific amount each week, say £5 or £10. Do it regularly. Make it a new, positive habit in your life. One added benefit of this is that you will feel good knowing you are making a difference. Not only will you be changing others’ lives; you will be changing yours too!
Treat others respectfully: do not use them for your own gains; think of their good points when they are being difficult; speak well of them to others; walk away if they seem intent on having an argument with you; do not read their private correspondence; give them space; allow them to be the person they are, not the person you want them to be. Treat them as you would like to be treated. In other words,
“You shall not bear false witness against your neighbour.” (Exodus 20:16)
Be actively helpful: for example, pick up litter from your neighbour’s garden if you know s/he is unable to do so; if someone asks for your help, give it if you are able (this could be simple things like giving directions, opening a door for someone with a pram/in a wheelchair and so on); and that metal gate to the park which squeals and grates each time it is opened or closed – go ahead and grease it so that others will not have to hear it. Actively look around your local community as you walk or drive through. Where is help needed? Can you phone the local refuse department to uplift an old sofa which has been lying on the grass verge for a week? Can you phone the police department to install speed detectors on a local road where cars regularly speed? Can you pester local community groups to do litter picks in your area? If community groups are unaware of problems, how can they be expected to deal with them! That’s where you come in!
I hope this post has given you a few ideas of how to spread love and kindness out to your local community. Please feel free to send in your suggestions. Much love, Anita. 😀
April 22nd is Earth Day 2018 and the campaign being highlighted this year is ending plastic pollution. There’s an excellent pdf to read through if you want much more information on how the plastic we produce and throw away is seriously damaging our world, our marine life and ourselves. Here’s the link to the downloadable pdf: Earth-Day-plastic-pollution-pdf.
I hope you’ve found some of these suggestions useful and food for thought. If you’d like to share any of yours with others, please do leave your comments. Anita.
I remember from my school days the register, or roll call, being taken every morning before class began. You were expected to answer to your name being called with “Present Miss/Sir”. Often times, I’d be busy day dreaming, looking out of the window wishing I were out there too. That’s not to say that I didn’t enjoy school, I did. I loved the challenges and was fiercely competitive but also easily bored with work which was too easy for me. In any case, if during daydreaming, I didn’t say “Present Sir/Miss”, this would be met with a palpable silence and then that feeling of all the faces turning to look at me with heightened interest. “Was she daring to ignore the teacher?” Was this what my fellow pupils were wondering as their necks craned round? Then I would hear the teacher’s booming voice laced with sarcasm, “Miss B_____, are you present?”
I guess I wasn’t really consciously present in the sense implied. I was in another ‘present’ of my own making. I was sailing in my imagination, oblivious to the ‘real’ physical world all around me. When we experience the joy of this inner world of the imagination, we are actually bringing our subconscious mind to the fore, which is the same part of our mind used in the dream state. We are ‘present’ but not in the physical world, not in the world of the conscious mind ruled by our senses and restless thoughts.
This is the state I enter when I write. I take myself out of the physical world and into the different reality of my imagination. I am fully present in this world where time can seem to stand still or speed by, where tasks are completed seemingly effortlessly, where joy is felt. Call it “being in the flow”, “being fully present” or “being mindful”, it signifies a calm state of active concentration and can be highly conducive to productivity and creativity.
Try this relaxation practice to disengage your mind from the conscious reality of logic, reason and restless thoughts and allow you to access the subconscious mind. It will take perhaps 10 minutes. Sit quietly ideally where you won’t be disturbed, feet on the floor, hands on your thighs, spine straight. Say an intention or mantra, eg. “I am calmly relaxed, ready for any task.” Take a few long, deep breaths, trying to equalise the in-breath and out-breath. As you do so, visualize a current of gentle heat rising from your feet very slowly up through the legs, your torso, the arms, chest, neck, head and face. As this warmth rises, concentrate on the muscles and will them to relax. Now, see, and feel the warmth of, this ball of white heat in the centre of your chest and watch it expand outwards as you breathe. Fill the room with this white-hot ball of light and bask in its warmth and energy. Sit quietly, slow your breathing and keep concentrating on the light and the sense of warmth and peace it brings. Imagine it expanding even more to encompass the room, then outwards into your town. Send this light out to everyone who needs its comfort and energy. Repeat your intention or mantra. You should be feeling pretty amazing by now! Open your eyes. You are ready to get started on your task!
For today’s #healingwordsmon a few lines from the wonderful poem, Remember by Christina Rossetti. What does actually happen to our loved ones when they leave their earthly shell? It’s all down to faith, isn’t it, for none of us can really know. Some believe that this life is all there is and then we’re gone. Others believe in the tenet of reincarnation, that we are reborn again and again until our soul reaches perfection, at which point it resides eternally in the astral world (what we call heaven). What does your faith tell you?